Life Lately

It’s been a while since I have updated you on the weekly happenings around here, 
so I figured it was about time!

1. Thanks to a brilliant idea from Emily I decided to teach the boys an important lesson about money.  I wanted to emphasize keeping some and giving some.  Hence these 3 little jars were born.  When each child accomplishes a task we ask them {helping fold laundry, cleaning up, putting away our shoe pile, etc.} they earn anywhere from .25 to $1.00.  They can either decide to keep all of it, give it all away, or keep some and give some.  So far this has been very effective and the boys are always so happy to give their donations to our church on Sunday.

2. Our oldest is in first grade and this week homework officially started.  I was honestly bracing myself for.the.worst.  I have the most dreadful memories of doing homework-even in elementary school.  I have tried to make sure his “homework time” is as stress-free and noise free as possible.  Usually this means homework is done after dinner, after the baby is already asleep for the night, and after bath time.  Usually it’s around 6:30-7pm in our house.  So far so good {two days in haha!}

3. I started an intimate bible study with one of my girlfriends.  I’ve only ever done one other bible study and that was about 2 years ago with a large group of women.  I’ve wanted and longed to do more but they have never fit into my full time working, 3 kids with activity,schedule.  It’s just the two of us and so far it is working great because we are so comfortable with one another that it is allowing us to be really open and sincere with our feelings and thoughts on what we are studying!

4. Our oldest also had his first math test at school this week and got an 8/9 which is amazing!  I always struggled at math and he seems to really excel and enjoy the subject which I am so.thankful.for.   It’s really interesting to see how our children develop as they grow older.  What subjects they enjoy, will excel at, struggle with, who they become friends with, how they treat their siblings, etc.

5. Our middle son is adjusting to pre-k extremely well and for this I am grateful too!  He is out little introvert.  You know the slow-to-warm up child?  Well Ayden is our VERY slow-to-warm up child.  Like it could take him 2 hours to warm up lol!  But so far this year he has made friends, plays with kids on the playground, and has even requested a few play dates with children in his class.  He is maturing and growing up right before our eyes and I am just in awe of it all.

6. The baby has been teething. Not like up all night teething, but snotty nose, cranky as long as he’s awake teething, going through three shirts a day teething.  This poor baby has got so many boogers and baba {saliva in spanish lol}that I can’t keep up with it most days-ahhhh the joys of motherhood 🙂

I guess that about wraps it up for now.
What’s happening in your life lately?

Signs

Last week was a terrible week for me.
Emotionally, and spiritually.
Most days I’m not even sure what got into me.
I was mean, snippy, rude, and had no patience.
I let my uglies come out, big time!
I knew I needed an attitude adjustment so I prayed that He would point me in the right direction.
That He would lay what I needed most on my heart.
I was thinking something along the lines of an excerpt from the bible, a hidden message in our sermon that week, or just a simple sign.
What I got was completely different.
It wasn’t a hidden message and it was not simple, that’s for sure.
This week {and it’s only Tuesday} my heart has been rocked.
Like seriously, rocked to it’s core.
Last night I sat and watched a documentary hosted by Half the Sky on PBS.
Believe me when I say I had no idea what awaited me.
The majority of stories revolved around sex trafficking and women’s oppression in other countries.
Gabrielle Union said it best, “Education for them is a safe haven.  For a few hours a day they have a safe environment.”
Can you imagine that? 
What we sometimes think of as a “break” from our kids for 6 hours a day to these children is the only peace and safe place they know for 5 days a week.
And that’s if the family pays for the girls to receive an education.
Most don’t believe girls should receive an education because they are lesser than men.
There were teenage girls working 6 days a week selling lottery tickets to pay for their own education.
Some were selling lottery tickets as a source of income for their family and when they weren’t able to sell all of their tickets they would receive physical punishment at home.
They showed brothels filled with girls ages 7 and up who were used as sex slaves.
They were sold like pieces of clothing, to men.
They were beaten and abused.
Physically, mentally, and emotionally they were torn down and treated like objects rather than people.
That was sign #1.
Then this morning on my way to therapy the lady who drives me proceeded to tell me a story of something that happened to her on Sunday.
This lady heads up Operation Christmas Child at our church and on Sunday she traveled to pick up the shoe boxes we will be filling.  
When she got to said destination there was a speaker there who was a 24 year old Russian woman.
This same woman had received an Operation Christmas Child shoe box when she was just 12 years old and  living in an orphanage.
She expressed to her audience how much she treasured her shoe box as a little girl.
How she had always longed for hair clips but living in an orphanage had never had them, and how she had to keep her hair so short because the lice was uncontrollable at times in the orphanage.
She received hair clips in her shoe box, and even though her hair was short she put every.single.one in her hair.
How she wished she didn’t have to share 1 toothbrush with 25 other children, and longed to brush her teeth more than once a week.
She received a toothbrush that year.
How she never felt loved in her whole.entire.life.
How she had never been hugged.
She was finally able to give a hug to the stuffed animal tucked inside her shoe box.
How the only noises you could hear at night were the creaking of the beds in the orphanage as the children would wrap their arms around themselves and rock themselves to sleep.
She thought it was truly amazing that somebody out there cared enough to send her this box.
She had never known love like that.
That was sign #2.
As I laid in my warm, clean, queen size, bed last night with hot tears streaming down my face I had a few thoughts and emotions running through me.
My biggest emotion was gratitude.
My children have three meals a day, they know where there next meal is coming from.
They know what it feels like to be hugged, to know home as a safe place, to know how love feels.
My kids have 2 different toothbrushes AND toothpaste because we have 2.5 bathrooms.
To my kids mom and dad are only known as protectors that will keep them away from anything harmful, not throw them out because they have shamed our family.
We have the resources to clothe them, feed them, take care of, and educate them.
Spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically we can meet these needs, and for that I am grateful.
These were my signs.
I’ve been taking for granted what is right in front of me.
On days when it seems like too much work, or I want to throw in the towel
I want to remember their smiley faces, their bright and happy eyes, and their childlike attitudes.
I want to remember their innocence, the way they mispronounce words, and the messes they made because of all the toys they had!
I want to keep them this way for as long as possible.
I want to put them in a capsule and savor this time.
Because as we all know I will never get this time back.
I don’t want my uglies to come out when someone doesn’t hang their book bag where it belongs.
They are kids.
There will be messes, fights, little patience, unkind words, and headaches.
But I know there will also be laughter, fun, joy, fulfillment, pride, and love.

A Few Words on Recharging

Last night Mr. Three and I formally celebrated our 8 year anniversary-
and it was wonderful!
Dinner and a movie.
So us.
It’s refreshing to spend time just me and him these days.
As a wife and mom how quickly I forget that we need that time to recharge.
To recharge us.
To recharge our feelings, thoughts, spirits, and hearts with each other.
To be able to finish a simple thought, or even a sentence without being interrupted!
To let the other person know how much they mean to us, that there’s no place we’d rather be than exactly where we are.
That we thank God everyday for that person being in our lives.
And you know what?
Today I woke up feeling rejuvanted!
I wasn’t snipping at the kids or anyone the moment my feet hit the floor.
I appreciated everyone and everything a little more.
Finding joy in everything seemed a little easier today.
How was your weekend?

My Best Friend

“Love is patient,<sup class="crossreference" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(A)”> love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.<sup class="crossreference" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(B)”>  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,<sup class="crossreference" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(C)”> it is not easily angered,<sup class="crossreference" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(D)”> it keeps no record of wrongs.<sup class="crossreference" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(E)”>  Love does not delight in evil<sup class="crossreference" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(F)”> but rejoices with the truth.<sup class="crossreference" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(G)”>  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Today marks 8 years since Mr. Three and I starting dating
{Swoon}
8 years of  life, loss, growth, happiness, sadness, snuggles, heartaches, and accomplishments.  
It hasn’t always been easy but there is no one else I’d rather be on this road with.
I know He put us on this path together for a reason.
No one else can lift me up quite like he can.
No one can make me smile or laugh like him.
No one makes me as comfortable as he does.
No one gives me as much confidence as he does.
Here’s to 8 years down and 80 to go!
“The one I laugh with, live for, dream with love.”

A Recipe, or Not

A whole lot of nothing has been going on here lately.
Zero. Zilch. Nada.
So in order to not leave you hanging today and in an attempt to have something to post I will leave you with a first here on this blog.
{Drum roll please…}
A RECIPE.
Or lack thereof, ha!
I really really need to improve on my cooking skills so if you have any feel free to comment/email away!
treslittlebirds3 at {gmail}.com
This recipe is super.dooper easy
Like 3 steps easy!
If you are like me and love camping, summer, fires, spending time outdoors with your family and those delicious treats that go along with camping {ahem} SMORE’S then this recipe is for you!
Sometimes I get the hankering- yes I just used that old dusty word on you- for a smore’s in September, or February, or really any month!
So here’s my recipe:

SMORE’S:

Ingredients:
Graham crackers, chocolate, and marshmallows
or of course whatever it is that you like to top your smore’s with!
Directions: 
Preheat oven to 400 and bake for 7 minutes.
Take out and top with other 1/2 of graham cracker.
See I told you-easy peasy!
Voila!  Instant, scrumptious smore’s all from the comfort of your house 🙂
Enjoy!

Mean Girls

Everybody has had that moment in their life where they have been put down.
By a friend, neighbor, stranger, whoever.
I know I certainly have, and it does not feel good.
Sometimes the pain is intentional-sometimes not.
I think as woman we especially feel vulnerable when these sort of comments are thrown our way.
Just like when we were in high school and there were the “mean girls” 
there are mean girls after high school too.
As the M&M’s in the commercial say when they see Santa for the first time, “He does exist!”
They really do exist, the mean girls.
Maybe for you they come in a different form.
But  have no doubt-they are there.
You know them…
The people that laugh at other’s expense.
The ones that seem to go out of their way to hurt or harm others.
The ones who purposely put others down just so they can get ahead.
After 27 years I still can’t explain why.
And I don’t know if I’ll ever have the answer.
I don’t know why other people feel the need to make others feel badly.
I was taught to treat everyone equally.
I was taught that you should treat others how you wish to be treated.
I was taught that you need to think before acting.
The same goes with speaking.
Our tongues are a viscous weapon.
In fact, this is still a lesson I am learning today and it is not always an easy one.
This topic has been heavy on my heart lately so I turned where I knew I would find answers,
 or at least for the moment I would find comfort. 
I decided to sit down with Him.
I {prayed} and {listened}.
Do you know where he pointed me?
Psalms 1-7.
I kid you not!
I could not have made this stuff up!
Those few passages are all about evil-doers, and people who seek to harm others.
He tells us not to follow the wicked ways of the sinners, rather delight in the Lord.
Stay close to Him, He will provide for us, he will make us grow and strengthen us the way no other can.
There will always be those who wish us harm, who want to see us fail.
But do you want to hear some great news?
He is for us!
Praise God! Alleluia!  I don’t think there is any better news!
If He is for us, no one can be against us!
Psalm 3: 7-8 “Arise, Lord!  Deliver me, my God!  Strike all my enemies on the jaw; break the teeth of the wicked.  From the Lord comes deliverance. “
How great is our God?!
He will take care of our enemies.
Some call it Karma, I know better… 
I know it is Him sheltering, protecting, and taking care of us believers.
We need to pray for the Lord to lead us away from those who are purposely malicious to us.
To shield us from their harm.
And believe me, he will!

Psalm 5: 8-10 “Lead me, Lord, in your righteousness because of my enemies- make your way straight before me.  Not a word from their mouth can be trusted; their heart if filled with malice.  Their throat is an open grave; with their tongues they tell lies.  Declare them guilt, O God!  Let their intrigues be their downfall.”

Today I pray for myself and all of those who have fell victim to the “mean girls” for Him to lead me, to make His way straight before me.
I want to live like Him
I want to live for Him.
I want to know where I stand, and who I stand for.  
To keep me on His path, to not stray, and retaliate when wickedness is cast my way. 
 I pray for the strength to lean into Him rather than into the wicked, mean spirited.

Just Call Me…

Oh hi there friends!
So I had a whole other post ready to go today but decided the timing just wan’t right soooo
Instead of posting another serious blog today I thought
Why not have some fun?!
 It always feels great to have some fun!!
So without further ado enjoy a fun post!!

Notice the title on this post?
Just call me…
Well that’s because today instead of going by my name I’m answering to any/all of the following:

Super Saver Sally
Frugal Fran
Prudent Polly
Thrifty Momma
Super Mom
Awesome Mom
Coupon Queen
or
Amazing Wife.
Seriously, take your pick!
Why you ask?
Because I purchased $211 worth of clothing from Children’s Place for  $31!!!!
Yes, you heard that right
$211 worth of brand new, brand name clothing for $31!
Okay, I’ll stop doing cartwheels in my living room now…
and giving myself pats on the back 😉
But seriously, how amazing?!
Today marks 2 months from the day of my Stroke on July 24
which also means 2 months out of work.
Our income has been cut nearly in half.
2 months of so many “I still can’ts…”
But I know, He always provides.
He will not let us go without.
I know to be still.
That everything will come in His timing.
This was just another one of those times where I walked out of the store smiling because He knew exactly what we needed, when we needed it.
Oh how good He is!
I’ve been trying to be as frugal as possible in every area of our spending and this was just the
 icing on the cake!  
{Now if only I could make that happen for my clothes}
When we got home I made Mr. Three take a picture of me with the receipt because it was just hysterical how long it was!
Seriously…it’s taller.than.me!
So, enjoy said picture below and have a happy Monday 🙂

Be Still

I’m sure you know about my story, if not you can read all about it here.
Well today I received some not-so-happy news from my Occupational Therapist.
I’m moving along quite nicely in physical therapy and occupational therapy.
Next up is driving.
I haven’t driven since the morning of July 24.
Before I can be cleared for driving I have to pass their pre-driving evaluation and then take the road test at the DMV.
That’s right.
The same road test I once took as a high school senior, on the verge of turning 18 I have to take…again!
{Bummer}
So today when Mr. Three picked me up from OT I got into the car with my head hanging low.
Immediately he knew something was bothering me.
Finally I broke down.
I told him the news I had just gotten.
That he would be driving me around for a much longer time than I anticipated.
That getting myself back to driving wasn’t going to be as easy as I thought.
That it would require me to pass test after test {and hopefully pass said tests}.
That the guilt I was having for not being able to do what I once was would be hanging around for a while longer.
That he would continue to have to work 6 days a week.
That none of the driving tests/examines/etc are covered by insurance and we would have to pay out of pocket  moving forward.
{Bummer}
After looking at him with tears in my eyes because I have already been out of work for almost 2 months he said to me, “We’ll be okay.”
He told me this will be more time off that I get to enjoy with him and our Little 3’s 🙂
I love that he always find the joy in every situation.
I would never have expected this process to be so emotional.
But it has been.
One day can hold so many ups and downs, highs and lows.
I feel like an emotionally unstable pregnant lady {no offense, I’ve been there 3x’s}
 The  frustration and feelings of defeat have been the worst part.
When we become Momma’s we strap on that invisible Momma cape that makes us feel like we can conquer the world and nothing can hold us down.
After all did anything hold down our Momma’s?
This momma is being held down- and I don’t like it!
In fact I remember being in ICU the day after my stroke and thinking to myself, “Oh I’ll be back to work in two weeks.  I won’t be needing this disability paperwork for only missing two weeks of work.”
Ha, little did I know…
But as frustrating as this whole process has been, especially when I feel like I am about to turn a corner and then am blindsided by a road block I know this too shall pass.
I know I have my husband, my family, and my faith.
I know there is a reason for all things.
That He has a plan already worked out for us, all of us.
I know that this is a drop in the bucket compared to what I am really here to accomplish.
Instead if saying {BUMMER} I’m saying {BE STILL}.

“Be Still and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10

I’m telling myself that He knows my plans.
Oh, does He know them!
I am telling myself to BE STILL through the hard times…
and to remember to lean into Him during these times.
I know this hasn’t been the easiest road, but I know at the end of this long, winding, dark, scary road it will all be worth it. 


{source unknown}

I Believe

Sometimes we need to sit down and figure out who we are, where we come from, and what we believe in.  
Thanks to a new friend at Living in Yellow here is my list of I believe’s! 
I believe:
Listening to the sound of waves is the best form of therapy.
I believe in the Lord.
I believe that family is one of the strongest bonds you can have.
I believe that as we get older the quality of friendships means more than the quantity of friendships we have.
I believe that tomorrow is never promised.
I believe that everyone deserves a second chance.
I believe in first impressions.
I believe in the working mother.
I believe the past is in your past for a reason-leave it there.
I believe sand between my toes is better than any pedicure I could ever pay for.
I believe in spending as much time outside as possible.
I believe every road block we have exists for a reason, and it is our job to push through said road block.
I believe in helping others.
I believe in taking time for yourself.
I believe in Pumpkin Spice Coffee and infinity scarfs.
I believe in as much social interaction, clubs, and activities for our children as possible.
I believe in breastfeeding.
I believe in an unlimited date plan-too bad AT&T doesn’t feel the same!
I believe in schedules and routine.
I believe in accepting help from others.
I believe in serving others.
I believe in quiet time.

I believe in living debt-free.

I believe in ordering pizza on Friday’s.
I believe in man/golf/football/baseball time for guys just as much as I believe in mani/pedi/hair/coffee time for girls.
I believe in a great hoagie.
I believe in breakfast for dinner.
I believe in coupons, groupons, and saving as much money as possible!
I believe in having emergency savings.
I believe in teaching our children to serve, help, give and be respectful.
I believe in people watching.
I believe in trying new styles of clothes & makeup.
I believe in enjoying a glass of vino with my husband.
I believe in open communication.
What do you believe in?

Coming together

Since school has begun hubby and I now have 6 hours with just one child…5 days a week.
Did you hear me?
In case you didn’t let me repeat myself, {ahem}
5 days a week we only have 1 little guy from 9-3 🙂 🙂
That means we’ve got a lot of time on our hands.
Sure we take the occasional family nap but we’ve also been doing
A LOT of shopping.
And doing things around the house we’ve been meaning to do for-EVER!
Lately we’ve been doing a lot of re-decorating to our house.
I mean we’ve only lived here for 5+ years,
so yah I think it’s about time!
Little by little things are really starting to come together.
Here are a few of our recent re-do’s.
 and if you remember this post about our kids room here is the final product too!
{I still can’t believe I showed you that messy, messy room!}